Psychology of Cancer: Helplessness Stage 4

Psychology of Cancer – Helplessness. In continuing our series on the Psychology of Cancer, I am excited to get to the fourth stage, helplessness. Excited because I have some very intricate thoughts around this stage and I hope I can offer perspective that you can use for yourself.

I believe emotions are part of our human nature. They give us information about our condition, our circumstances, our mindset, etc.

These emotions are not right or wrong…. and the emotion of helplessness is no exception.

With all of this said, I do believe many of us have not been trained to deal with negative impacting emotions such helplessness. Most people, when they feel helpless, they feel left alone. They feel like no help can come from anywhere. They feel that others are either unaware, unable or unwilling to help.  While this feeling is valid and true for the individual, it doesn’t have the final say on who we are or can choose to be. Helplessness doesn’t have to be the final say!

Let me speak candidly about my own experience: The thyroid is connected to this feeling of helplessness and I have personally experienced it especially before my diagnosis. What has helped me a great deal is believing what God says about me and choosing everyday to not let my thoughts partner with those feelings.

It is important to recognize that we can not afford to listen to every feeling we have as truth. Can you imagine if we did? We would be so held back in life. Again, these emotions provide us information but not necessarily hold truth about us, others, and our circumstances.

We have a choice, even if we feel helpless from time to time, to live from a place of intention and awareness. We have a choice to acknowledge these negative emotions and process them, and finally, let them go.

It is up to us to choose to live whole and thriving, and do it daily. In this way, we can win the warfare in our minds.